family & grief


Salaam Reader,

I was talking a friend the other day who, like me, grew up without extended family nearby. As adults, it feels like we missed out on so much.

Those feelings resurface for me every time someone passes away. It’s a strange kind of grief, to mourn someone who you’re supposed to be close to, but aren’t.

I had written an essay about this after my nani passed away. I told my friend I’d share the essay with her and I thought I’d share it with you too.

You can read it here on my blog.

With best wishes for your writing,

Hajera Khaja

Writer + Creative Writing Teacher & Coach


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Hajera Khaja

I help Muslim women reconnect with their writing and I teach creative writing in a way that's fun and intuitive. I love to see writers begin to believe in themselves again, break through their struggles and resistance, and show up on the page in all their brilliance.

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